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In Motivation Menu, today we have some relationship stuff to discuss.( Here, I’m going to talk about every relationship whether that’s parents and children, husband and wife or between siblings ) So, let’s begin.
Break the restriction barrier from your relationships. We live in an age where we all have or might have gone through trust issues at some point of our lives. And due to that trust issues we created restrictions for ourselves and for the people around us, who care for us and who we care for. And that restriction barrier restrained not only us but also created a gap that distanced us from our beloved ones in our lives.
21st century, the age of technology and advancement we have started making new relationships much quicker on social media rather than in our personal lives. We have transformed our real life into reel life. And that initiated trust issues between us which is ending up our relationships very easily these days.
What basically we are doing is that we are restricting our loved ones, always yelling at them or reminding them again and again about the do’s and don’ts like a small kid.
Making someone understand is a different thing but forcing your opinion on your partner or any member of your family is totally not done. You guys are in a relationship, not in a prison. Don’t make your partner or any member of your family feel suffocate. Provide him or her their space that they deserve.
Don’t just impose your opinions that they should do this not that. But try and make them understand if you really think that it’s very very important for them to realize, other than that don’t. Please! Don’t toxic your relationship with anyone by restricting them to certain things. They aren’t a small kid. Everyone is mature enough.
Not everyone is always ready to just bow down and simply follow up all the orders of their partners.
Each one of us likes having their own space to breathe, to live, to make decisions, to make choices and stuff.
But who are we to restrict them ?
Look! When you care for someone, when you love them you want them to be happy, to grow. And that can only be happen if you give them their space. Restricting someone not to talk to other girls or boys, or wearing modest clothing is totally and honestly imposing your thoughts and opinions on your partner.
When you have complete trust and faith in your partner, you don’t need to restrict them to certain things. In fact you allow them and encourage them to be more confident in whatever they do. You not only acknowledge them but also appreciate what they do. And that’s not only being supportive but actually it’s more encouraging. And that’s the thing we are lacking in our culture. The lack of encouragement. Because we’re being supportive and not encouraging. If we start appreciating and encouraging more often, we’ll have a much better understanding with our partners. We’ll both not only listen to each other but we’ll also understand each other’s perspective and opinions as well. And that’s more important and much needed these days.
Look! If you think that your partner really really needs to understand something, than there are ways to make them understand. Without even forcing them. ( Here, I’m talking about every relationship whether that’s parents and children, husband and wife or between siblings.)
■ How to make them understand ?
▪ Provide them thier space :
Providing your partner thier space to breathe, to relax is first and foremost. It’s the most important thing. It actually works the most. If you are constantly around them and nagging to force your opinion onto your partner, he or she won’t even listen to you. When you give them some space and distance yourself abit, you’ll see them wanting to talk to you or wanting to spend some quality time with you. That’s the distance secret.
▪ Stop Nagging :
Stop nagging. Stop pointing out flaws and mistakes everytime. Talk about some positive stuff, start your conversations indirectly with some productive things and then discuss what you want to say.
▪ Acknowledge small small things & efforts :
Acknowledging is highly recommended. When you acknowledge someone’s growth, thier achievement or anything, they feel good. And if you want someone to be interested in what you say, you have to be also interested in whatever they say or do.
▪ Appreciate & Encourage them :
That’s the only thing the every human wants to hear on this planet. He wants to hear good stuff about himself. Well, that’s not self-obsession, that’s only a wish, a desire that we all have in common. When you praise someone they definitely feel good and plus they listen more carefully and attentively to what you say. So, then you can try out and say what you want to add on or change.
So, this is it. I literally don’t have any idea how I came up with this topic. But I really hope that you guys don’t comment but at least try and understand what I wanted to deliver it to you guys. I just felt that people need to know this, to understand their relationship much better with any member of thier family.
So, wrapping up ! I hope that you guys like this blog or at least find it interesting and appreciate my efforts through your comments below. I would love to read them.
Thank you !